- The below tips for a Tinder hookup are essential for men and appreciated by women, so lets start by stating the obvious and start having more sex on your tinder dates.
It has two main sections, how to hookup when you are on your Tinder date, and how to use Tinder to get laid. 2 different things, I’ll explain but read the hookup strategy first because you will understand women a lot more.
A good date story allows girls to have enough detail to cover a potentially slutty image with a blanket of respectability
Guys want to hookup and have sex with hot, sexy attractive women but sadly most men have no idea of how to make that happen, especially on Tinder, if you have ever seen the Tinder messages girls get – its embarrassing for all men.
Girls equally love the excitement of having a sex with a new partner, and are usually willing to have hookups and one night stands with a man who makes them feel good, but girls won’t if it makes them look or feel like a Tinder slut.
BTW – my favourite ‘being attractive’ psychology book is called Double your Dating (embarrassing title but it’s so fricken awesome), click the link, bookmark it and check it out later – specifically this book.
Tinder Hookup – The importance of the Story
Most girls have one night stands and hookup with guys from Tinder but they can’t look like a slut doing it. This is so important for you to understand, the key to hookup with a hot girl on the first night is all about creating a good date story. Tinder or non Tinder – this is important.
If a girl starts suggesting that she would be up for a one night stand and sounding like a slut, 9 out of 10 times they are just testing you.
‘The key to hookup with a hot girl on the first night is all about creating a good date story’
For girls it is all about the story, of how it happened, girls love this stuff and will chat hours with their friends; what did he say? How did he ask you out? How did you end up at his place? All of this is really important to women and they will tell every last detail to their friends.
When they tell their friends about the sex on first night it can’t make them look like a slut, it’s better to be an exciting unexpected ending to a date rather than a dirty Tinder hookup. Giving girls a good story allows them to have enough detail to cover a potentially slutty image with a blanket of respectability.
A girl that has sex with you will want to meet again 9/10!!
This is the reason why men should meet them early, suggest to go to a quiet bar, nice walk to chat visiting several places, this is a great way to help her write the story in her head that it was a classy evening. Your job is to make her feel good and help write the story, all the way to your bedroom.
Hot Girl Mindset
Remember a very attractive woman can have sex or ‘Hookup’ whenever she wants, if she wanted to have some anonymous sex she could organise that in a second, she knows that 9/10 guys would drop everything and take her home if she suggested she wanted to have sex. Tinder for her is like window shopping because she every guy will have swiped yes to her on Tinder.
A hot girl doesn’t put a high value on sex because she can have it whenever she wants. But she will value peer respect, image and status, she will be very aware that other less hot, jealous women would jump at the chance to give her a slut label in an attempt to bring down her value.
I cannot emphasis this enough – Don’t make your hookup sound like a one night stand, when a girl tells her friends the story, or asks for their advice, you need to sound like a great guy with a ‘potential’ long term even if all she wanted was to get laid.
Show any girl this post and they will agree with it, this is what they want, they want to meet a guy have great sex and they want to keep their dignity doing it.
This is what horny girls are waiting for, a guy who will take them out, help them write a good story to tell themselves and to their friends so they can have dirty sweaty incredible sex on that blanket of respectability.
Men – be the Leader
The key here is continuous compliance. If you lead, she will comply, women like men to lead, be a leader!
Tell your Tinder date to do things throughout the date; tell her “try the food because it is great!” – she does and loves it, then you suggest to the girl that she should check out something in the window – she does and it was great, you suggest to go to this other bar – she does and it is a good place, you ask her to you her hand for ‘some reason of your choice’.
Notice I said “try the food”, not “would you like to try the food”, stop asking and start telling (in a calm pleasant way).
Building a chain of compliance is so effective, and it is also a good way to gauge how much she is into you, when she starts complying to everything that you are saying, then you are in, she is definitely loving your masculinity.
I don’t care what year this is, equal rights, girl power, pinstriped pencil skirts etc, girls want a man who is in control. You are the leader, you and going to lead her on a date, you are in charge of where to meet, where to go, if you’ll be drinking wine or cocktails, and you will also be the one who suggests to go back to your place.
This is not a trick this is just the type of behaviour that girls like to see naturally in men. This Tinder date story gives her a great date and gives you the platform to be the leader and build a chain of compliance.
Making decisions and leading the way is an attractive male trait, trying to pressure a woman to do something is being a douche-bag, so if she doesn’t want the cocktail don’t force it, she doesn’t need to be drunk to go home with you, you want to hookup and for her to tell her friends you were awesome, don’t be weird and rapey! Girls will spot that kind of thing a mile away.
Perfect Date Strategy – Tinder Hookups
This framework is perfect when it comes to having a successful date, follow it, be a leader in a casual way.
Quiet First Drink
Meet at a quite bar, have one drink to let her feel comfortable with you, you suggest to leave after one drink, so that she feels like you are not trying to get her tipsy trying to entice her into making bad decisions, this will lower her guard and build trust that you are a nice guy.
Walk to get some food, snack type, slice of pizza, something small and is a fast transition, but pick a cool one, particularly good food etc, talk about the reason for choosing the place.
Snack food for several reasons; its cheap, it is fast, you don’t get too full and sleepy, you’ll still have room for a glass of wine after, you don’t have to wait uncomfortably long time to get your food and no awkward moments when getting the check. Ok date story status: you went for a drink, then went for a walk, then had some food, you have already written a great story for her so far, it is all good stuff.
Walk to the Drinking Spot
Walk to the next spot if possible, let the food digest a little and get thirsty for the wine.
Share a bottle of wine in a cool bar, have a reason for picking the place and tell her about it. A bottle of wine is easy to drink and sounds classy, whatever you save by not going to a restaurant you can splash out a little on a nice bottle of wine and don’t mention the price(she will probably notice on her own).
Paying the Cheque
Always get the cheque, your goal here is to give her an amazing night that finishes in your bedroom.
Nothing turns off a girl more than putting her hand into her wallet
That is an expression for a reason. There are woman who genuinely pay bills and enjoy paying there way, but they are as rare as rocking-horse sh!t. Men paying the bills is attractive in a primal, providing a home, taking care of your women type of way. Even if you date a die-hard feminist they, they are still turned off by you if you don’t pay the bill. (I have a story for this – read after the hookup checklist)
By this point you have been to 3 places, the meeting point drink, the food place, and the wine place. Every time the cheque comes, you get the cheque, no hesitation, smile and be friendly with the staff when you do so this moment makes you look really nice.
If she says “here is some money for it”, you say “you can get the next one”, and move on with your conversation. Then when the next bill comes, you pay again and say “you get the next one”. I swear, this works the best, because you are paying multiple cheques and it becomes fun moments rather than awkward, and she will genuinely want to pay one as some point.
If you decide to let her pay one, make it the cheapest bill of the night.
Once you both are at the perfect amount of tipsy drunk take her to a place where you can have some physical contact, a dancing place preferably. If you can dance this is the time to bring-it into the date in a fun way(if you are getting on well and it turns out you can dance too, it will take your hookup probability up to 90%). Don’t worry if you are not good at dancing, its about being close, more intimate and holding hands / on each others bodies, so she gets used to it and starts wanting more.
It is time to close(take her back to your house), when the bar closes or after significant dancing, say you don’t want to go to a club, its too loud etc, tell her you have some drink back at yours, say it without hesitation.
Remember that this hookup is not going to happen on its own, it requires your consistent, fun leadership and her continuing compliance. And what you have actually done is create an awesome date story and she will be excited to go home with you.
Remember, you were fun, not pushy, a confident leader, interesting because you show her great places to eat and drink (with your opinions), you didn’t make any overeating mistakes, she is having a great time and if you done some dancing then she will becoming comfortable with touching you, you are almost there!
This not just a one night strategy, sure you can hookup with the girl, but 9 times out of 10, a girl that has sex with you will want to meet again, unless you get weird or super lovey-dovey after sex. So do this every time.
Hookup Checklist for men
- Be very comfortable in her company
- Let her get comfortable with you
- Don’t worry about silences, it is only awkward if you make it awkward
- Always have in your mind where to go, and a back-up if one place is closed
- Lead the entire date from picking the meet-up spot all the way to taking her home
- Look out for signs that she is enjoying your company
- Don’t react to these signs (be cool), if she is comfortable and enjoying herself keep the same vibe going.
- Have drinks but not too much – it is really not required, she can always pretend to be more drunk if it makes her feel more comfortable.
- Have your apartment already prepared with wine in the fridge, water, condoms, tidy room, low lit lighting and a nicely made bed.
- Hold her hand towards the end of the date, crossing the street, you don’t need to explain, just take her hand.
- Be a champion and take her home, happy hookup..!!
The hookup story – and the Bill.
I met a girl in a bar, not a tinder story but it is a getting laid story and about paying the bill. So I met this girl, we were chatting and enjoying the conversation. There was another woman who joined us for a moment, I bought a round of drinks for all 3 of us, and this girl that I liked, said this…
“I would like to pay for my drink”
I said, “don’t worry about it, you get the next one”
She said, while taking out her wallet “no I really want to pay”
So I let her give me her money. Because I thought it was one of those new-age feminist ‘i don’t need a man to pay for my drink’ kind of statement, which is fine I really don’t care. She gave me the money and the other girl was satisfied with me paying for her.
So I end up taking her home that night, we have sex, and the next night we meet again. I’ll never forget this, she gives me so much shit about me not paying for her drink, and how i’m not a gentleman, I could not believe it. The night before she sternly wanted to pay for her drink, double insisted, and she had the expectation that I should have fought her on that and paid for it anyway.
This is just a lesson to pass on, guys – pay the bill. This happened late 2018.
How to get laid on Tinder – Section 2
Ok there is a reason I left this until last, I wanted you to get in your heads about maintaining the air of respectability because this is where most men fail, and women get spammed all day with sex requests.
Remember the girl wants to get laid too, so how do we tell what girls want to get laid and what girls don’t.
Things to be aware of:
Just because she has a sexy looking pic, doesn’t mean that she is DTF.
This normally means that she wants the attention, she knows that using a sexy profile pic will get more men messaging her and she really just wants the ego boost.
That being said, insecure girls who want their egos boosted also want to get laid but don’t fall for the trap of acting like predicable hungry dog getting excited because you seen a little skin and you think she is easy.
So what is the plan?
Try to make her feel something different, for example you could message..
“I can see by your pics that you are just on here for the ego boost, you have a really sexy look, I will happily give you the ego boost ;)” .
Notice I didn’t ask a question! Because as most of us know (who are not supermodel good-looking men) girls will ofter reply with a statement reply, meaning they won’t ask a question back.
The reply will be like this…
“Thank you edward.. glad you like it ;)” or if you are lucky “what do you mean EGO boost??”
When we send a polite(ish) message with a twist, we usually gets you a reply, which is the first goal. Now here is your chance to say something to give you value over the hundred other men to complimented her that day.
Say something like “I’m really into behaviour psychology and I can tell you how you felt in that (choose one of her pics)
Super interesting thing to say and out of curiosity she’ll ask what it is you think. So then you make a joke, don’t give her the answer straight away, entertain her enough before asking her out.
You can just swipe and request hookups all day. Unless you are really good looking you are probably not going to get laid on Tinder.
Another recommendation for this book – because it is my favorite.
There is one book that I recommend all men to read. It is this one, and the guy who wrote it is a champion. It is like $20, 1 night reading this book, is the best return on investment regarding your love life (apart from learning bachata) – I’m not joking. Happy reading.
Take a look at our Tinder Profile Tips for great info on getting more matches.
How to pick up on Twitch?
OMG, just don’t bother trying with forward complimenting girls channels, it gets such a bad response from ‘the empowered’. The reason for adding this paragraph is that there are so many funny situations happening in the Twitch space, where girls get complimented and then acting like total assholes. You are better off with sending a funny Twitch Sound Alert Donation, and sending DMs.
‘Picking up’ in real life may be more scary, but it will get a much better response.