The hookup dating tips below are essential for men and appreciated by women, so lets start by stating the obvious and start having more sex on your tinder dates:
A good story allows girls to have enough detail to cover a potentially slutty image with a blanket of respectability
Guys want to hookup and have sex with hot, sexy attractive women but sadly most men have no idea of how to make that happen, especially on Tinder, if you have ever seen the Tinder messages girls get – its embarrassing for al men.
Girls equally love the excitement of having a sex with a new partner, and are usually willing to have hookups and one night stands with a man who makes them feel good, but girls won’t if it could make them look or feel like a Tinder slut.
BTW – I got most of my dating and pickup phycology from a book called double your dating (embarrassing title but it’s so frick’n awesome), check it out later. But the real gem, the holy grail of organising Tinder hookups quickly is a little ebook that I’ll put a link to at the bottom of the article.
Hookup – The importance of the Story
Most girls have one night stands and hookup with guys from Tinder but they can’t look like a slut doing it. This is so important for you to understand, the key to hookup with a hot girl on the first night is all about creating a good date story. Tinder or non Tinder – this is important.
If a girl tells starts suggesting that she would be up for a one night stand and sounding like a slut, 9 out of 10 times they are just testing you.
‘The key to hookup with a hot girl on the first night is all about creating a good date story’
For girls it is all about the story, of how it happened, girls love this stuff and will chat hours with their friends; what did he say? how did he ask you out? how did you end up at his place? all of this is really important to women and they will tell every last detail to their friends.
When they tell their friends about the sex on first night it can’t make them look like a slut, rather an exciting unexpected ending rather than a dirty Tinder hookup. Giving girls a good story allows them to have enough detail to cover a potentially slutty image with a blanket of respectability.
A girl that has sex with you will want to meet again
This is the reason why men should meet them early, suggest to go to a quiet bar, nice walk to chat visiting several places, this is a great way to help her write the story in her head that it was a classy evening. Your job is to make her feel good and help write the story, all the way to your bedroom.
Hot Girl Mindset
Remember a very attractive woman can have sex or ‘Hookup’ whenever she wants, if she wanted to have some anonymous sex she could organise that in a second, she knows that 9/10 guys would drop everything and take her home if she suggested she wanted to have sex. Tinder for her is like window shopping because she every guy will have swiped yes to her on Tinder.
A hot girl doesn’t put a high value on sex because she can have it whenever she wants. But she will value peer respect, image and status, she will be very aware that other less hot, jealous women would jump at the chance to give her a slut label in an attempt to bring down her value.
I cannot emphasis this enough – Don’t make your hookup sound like a one night stand, when a girl tells her friends the story, or ask for their advice, you need to sound like a great guy with a ‘potential’ long term even if all she wanted was to get laid.
Show any girl this post and they will agree with it, this is what they want, they want to meet a guy have great sex and they want to keep their dignity doing it.
This is what horny girls are waiting for, a guy who will take them out, help them write a good story to tell themselves and to their friends so they can have dirty sweaty incredible sex on a blanket of respectability.
Men – be the Leader
The key here is continuous compliance, tell your Tinder date to do things throughout the date; tell her to try he food because it is great – she does and loves it, then you suggest to the girl she should check out something out the window – she does and it was great, you suggest to go to this other bar – she does and it is a good place, you ask her to you her hand for ‘some reason of your choice’.
Building a chain of compliance is so effective, and it is also a good way to gauge how much she is into you, when she starts complying to everything that you are saying then you are in and she is definitely loving your masculinity.
I don’t care what year this is, equal right, girl power etc, girls want a man who is in control. You are the leader, you and going to lead her on a date, you are in charge of where to meet, where to go, if you’ll be drinking wine or cocktails, and you will also be the one who suggests to go back to your place.
This is not a trick this is just the type of behaviour that girls like to see naturally in men. This Tinder date story gives her a great date and gives you the platform to be the leader and build a chain of compliance.
Making decisions and leading the way is an attractive male trait, trying to pressure a woman to do something is being a douche-bag, so if she doesn’t want the cocktail don’t force it, she doesn’t need to be drunk to go home with you, you want to hookup and for her to tell her friends you were awesome, don’t be weird and rapey! Girls will spot that kind of thing a mile away.
Perfect Date Strategy – Hookups
This framework is better than Patrick’s Online Income strategy when it comes to a successful date story, follow it, be a leader in a casual way.
Quiet First Drink
Meet at a quite bar, have one drink to let her feel comfortable with you, you suggest to leave after one drink, so that she feels like you are not trying to get her tipsy trying to entice her into making bad decisions, this will lower her guard and build trust that you are a nice guy.
Walk to get some food, snack type, slice of pizza, something small and is a fast transition. For several reasons, its cheap, it is fast, you don’t get too full, you don’t have to wait uncomfortably long time to get your food and no awkward moments when getting the check. When she tells the story, you went for a drink, then went for a walk, then had some food, you have already written a great story for her so far, it is all good stuff.
Walk to the Date Spot
Take her to get another drink at another place, share a bottle of wine in a cool bar. A bottle of wine is easy to drink and sounds classy, whatever you save on not going to a restaurant you can splash out a little on a nice bottle of wine and don’t mention the price(she will notice on her own because she will be analysing you).
Once you both are at the perfect amount of tipsy drunk take her to a place where you can have some physical contact, a dancing place or a bar with loud music. If you can dance this is the time to bring it into the date, it will take your hookup probability up to 90%.
It is time to close(take her back to your house), when the bar closes, say you don’t want to go to a club, its too loud etc, tell her you have some drink back at yours, say it without hesitation.
Remember that this hookup is not going to happen on its own, it requires your consistent, fun leadership and her continuing confluence. And what you have actually done is create an awesome date story and she will be excited to hookup.
It also not just a one night strategy, sure you can hookup with the girl, but 9 times out of 10 a girl that has sex with you will want to meet again, unless you get weird or super lovey-dovey after sex.
Hookup Checklist for men
- Be very comfortable in her company
- Let her get comfortable with you
- Don’t worry about silences, it is only awkward if you make it awkward
- Always have in your mind where to go, and a back-up if one place is closed
- Lead the entire date from picking the meet-up spot all the way to taking her home
- Look out for signs that she is enjoying your company
- Don’t react to these signs (be cool), if she is comfortable and enjoying herself keep the same vibe going.
- Have drinks but not too much – it is really not required, she can always pretend to be more drunk if it makes her feel more comfortable.
- Have your apartment already prepared with wine in the fridge, water, condoms, tidy room, low lit lighting and a nicely made bed.
- Hold her hand towards the end of the date, crossing the street, you don’t need to explain, just take her hand.
- Be a champion and take her home, happy hookup..!!
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